“That which does not does not kill us makes us stronger.”-Fredrich Nietzsche
Strength isn’t determined by simply how many punches you can take to the gut or how many weights you can lift. It is a quality that shapes us both inside and out. The wisest, most loving, and well rounded people has faced demons before. Everyone has experienced defeat, misery, and heartbreak. But why can some people find the light at the end of the tunnel and others cannot? Why is it that while some people learn from the pain they experience,that others are swallowed whole by the darkness of their own despair?
How exactly do people stay strong through pain?
Let me must start by saying this:Holding the pain inside is not strength. Having the courage to show it and make something positive out of it IS.
Too many times I hear the wrong interpretation of the phrase “stay strong”. Its always something like:
Suck it up.
Don’t show your feelings.
Don’t talk about your pain.
That’s what its not. The ones who get through pain are the ones who accept it. Lets face it. Pain is a part of life and love, and it helps you grow.
“That’s the thing about pain. It demands to be felt.”-John Green
So many of us are afraid of ourselves, of the truth, and of our own feelings. Everyone is taught at a young age that all pain is evil and harmful. Yet how can we deal with the reality of life and love if we choose to hide from it?
The image of the flower above is something I painted earlier this week. The flower itself is supposed to be a representation of a human. The red streaks are the “scars” or “pain” that one may experience throughout life. Even in darkness, the flower remains blooming. Remember, pain is meant to wake us up. Realize this. Its something that everyone experiences and makes you stronger. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings don’t define you, they are a part of you. Feel pain-endure it-deal with the realities of life and love as you grow into the strongest,wisest, and truest version of yourself.